Society is not ALL about Woman’s Rights

I was thinking to write on some issue that no one has written before.  I went through many newspapers, magazines, blog, social network discussions, online forums and many other open discussion websites and forums. Apart from many good, genuine, reasonable and true and many over expressed and overrate views and discussion about woman rights; I found discussions and forums for the environment rights, earth’s rights, rights of plants and forests. Even there are many active forums about the rights of all existing and extinct animals. But there was something that I could not find anywhere.

The thing I didn’t find anywhere was the “Man’s Rights”. At first I wonder that Man’s rights do not exist at all or no one ever has thought about it. Well, logically speaking, if man exists in the world with duties they have to do then there must be some rights they must have.

I do agree the society is incomplete and imbalance if the society does not take care of the rights of a mother, sister, daughter and wife; in simple words a woman. But, on the other hand, the world would be equally partial and one-sided without the respect of rights of a father, brother, son and husband; in other words the man. Man and woman are not rivals in the society; they both are part of society and society depends on both equally.

In my knowledge, all the essence of how much religion I have read and social values I have observed and understand man and woman are equal parts of the society with different responsibilities. The society is incomplete and imbalance without either of them. Both have equal and different duties; both have equal but different rights. The burden of duties is equal on both of them it means that both can enjoy same comfort of rights. As far as my logic is concern, one can enjoy his or her rights most when one fulfills all the duties responsibly.

I agree that it is a man’s responsibility to take care of woman; to take care of her food and clothing, to take care of her shelter and comfort. If it is his responsibility to take care of his home and family then it must be his right to be taken care in home. Logically speaking it is his right to be welcomed at home after a tiring day with sweet smile and nice cup of tea rather than with saas-bahu fuss and complaints about what the kids did whole day.

A man has equal right to be taken care, to be loved and to be happy as a woman. I know I accept and I admit there are parts of society where woman treated so brutally but there is no doubt in that there are parts of society as well where woman are sole reason of imbalance in the society. A good society is not about what I can do and other can’t; it is all about what we can do to make it better place to live in. Braveness is not only standing up and fighting for the rights it is fulfilling the duties with sincerity.

I’m not writing this because I regret being a woman or I consider woman inferior then man. I’m writing this because I am educated, literate, sensible and strong enough to know I would never get my rights at fullest without fulfilling my all duties.

Seasonal Enthusiasm

Ramadan is over, eid holidays are finished and the religious attitude that we all observed during holy month of Ramadan is also vanished. During the whole month of Ramadan we lived a peaceful life… No earsplitting music in markets and streets, no vulgar dressing, no smoking, no drinking and most important no one was escaping from prayers. For a whole month we observed a pure Islamic environment.

According to new standpoints, It isn’t be wrong saying that we are Muslims only in month of Ramadan as we are Pakistani during the month of August when whole 14 days – august 1 to august 14 – we exhibit love and affection towards our dear home land and make countless promises in front of cameras. Why don’t we keep this attitude towards religion and country throughout the year? Are feeling comes with the season only? Are we not Pakistani Muslims in days except Ramadan, august 14, eid –ul- fitr,    March 23, eid –ul- azha, September 06, muheram 09 & 10, December 25, rabbi –ul- awwal 12…??? What about rest of the year? Will we not be asked by Almighty about other days? We recite Holy Quran on regular basis during Ramadan, but in other days we close it, wrap it in its cover and put it on the upper shelve and its supposed to be open and recite in next Ramadan. Similarly, we decorate our streets and homes with paper flags on august 14, but what happen next morning all the paper flags are on the floor and crushing under our own shoes and none of bother to put it on a side. This is respect we have for our flag. If someone picks that up from the street and put it on side so other one stop him by saying ” it’s only a piece of paper… Sweeper will clean it and put it in trash.”  This is not a piece of paper only, this is our flag our international identity. What about all that countless promises that were made on the Independence Day. We have to be Pakistani Muslims throughout our lives, not seasonally.

This seasonal enthusiasm is observed not only in religious and national matters but also in daily life style. In the start of semester we strong-willed to study every day but after a week or two we slot in ourselves in every other thing except studies. Parties and gathering seems more important than studies. Digital gadgets and mp4 players become more important than books. Computer is being started use for gaming and watching movies not for the study purposes. Internet is for searching and downloading best online game, best songs collection and top rated movies. And a common sentence that comes across ears is that ” much time is in exams… I’ll start studying very soon but right now I’ve to grace my friend’s party with my presence.” And when exams come near we start studying for whole 24hrs. At that time incapable to understand what we had studied. We’re unable to keep every topic in mind. At that time we start praying that ” Almighty please! Have some mercy on me… tomorrow’s paper will be easy… please pass me this time… next time I’ll study all through the semester with proper time table.” We all know that we have to be appear in exams at the end of semester so why we don’t study in whole semester. Only at the time of exams we get enthusiastic for study but this seasonal studying enthusiasm just clear you in exams and after exams you forget everything you learnt on the semester. Clearing in exams isn’t the only aim for studying. We study to learn something and if we don’t study on regular bases we won’t learn anything.

The situation is same when people, girls especially decide to reduce weight. Very enthusiastically a diet chart is prepared. No oil, no ghee, no chocolates, no sweets, no cakes and pastries. Only diet drinks, fresh fruits, green veggies, salads, green tea and wheat fiber biscuits. This chart is supposed to be followed. During 1 st week of this decision in any party, “sorry I can’t eat that curry… it’s so oily… I am dieting these days.” But that enthusiasm start decreasing, food and parties become more important then the idea of losing few ponds and we satisfied our soul with the statements like “there are many days in that occasion… I’ll reduce some weight after days” and “I don’t care if I have few extra ponds… I’m unable to stop myself from eating delicious food” and many other of same sort. Matter is not that we can’t do so; the thing is that we don’t have determination to do anything or to perform any task with persistence.

Another situation where seasonal enthusiasm can be seen very easily, is the time when somebody decide “I won’t lie anymore” or “I don’t gossip about others.” In beginning, we think then we talk. But after few days we talked then we realized that we lie or we did gossip about somebody. The main reason is that evil attracts so easily and we don’t have as much resistance to face that evil. We make aims, we take decisions but its WE who is first to go against our own decision and aims.

We have set our minds to perform any task in its season only. Again I repeat we don’t have determinations to achieve our aims. We don’t have persistence to follow our decisions and resist against evil wishes which force us to give up. We have to respect our own religion, country, decisions, feelings and aims.

I know everyone is not alike; there are many people who have persistence. But this is democracy… here only majority is counted!!!